By Guruji Sunil Chaudhary
Digital Success Coach | Founder, Digital Dharma Club
Who Are Energy Drainers?
We all know someone who makes us feel tired, frustrated, or low after we interact with them. These people can be friends, family, co-workers, or even strangers online. I call them Energy Drainers or Battery Drainers.
They don’t just take up your time. They drain your peace, joy, focus, and motivation. And if you’re not careful, they can disturb your entire journey in life and business.
“Your energy is your biggest asset. Your peace is your real strength.”
Let’s talk about how you can stay mentally strong, calm, and focused — no matter who you’re surrounded by.
Step 1: Identify the Energy Drainers
Common Types of Drainers:
- The Complainer: Always talking about problems but never finding solutions.
- The Critic: Always pointing out your mistakes, never praising your progress.
- The Gossiper: Always discussing others and creating negativity.
- The Victim: Never takes responsibility, always blaming others.
- The Emotional Leech: You always feel low after speaking to them.
- The Pretender: Acts like a supporter but secretly competes with you.
Check Yourself Too:
Sometimes, we drain our own energy through:
- Overthinking
- Fear
- Guilt
- Trying to be perfect
Step 2: Why Protecting Energy is So Important
- Mental health needs a peaceful environment.
- Success needs a focused mind.
- Growth needs positive energy.
“You cannot serve others if your energy is always leaking.”
Step 3: Set Clear Boundaries
1. Use Time Blocks
Decide when you’re available. Use tools like calendars and “Do Not Disturb” mode on your phone.
2. Learn to Say No
Don’t feel guilty about saying no to things or people that disturb your peace.
3. Limit Direct Access
For certain people, switch to email or voice notes instead of calls or chats.
4. Use the Energy Filter Question
Ask yourself: “Does this person or task give me energy or take it away?”
5. Don’t React Immediately
Take your time before replying, especially if someone is negative.
Step 4: Use Spiritual Practices for Mental Strength
- Daily Chanting or Prayer: Even 5 minutes helps focus your mind.
- Om Chanting: Calms your nervous system.
- Gratitude Practice: Reminds you of what’s good in your life.
- Protective Mantras: Like Hanuman Chalisa or Durga Kavach.
- Breathe Before You Speak: One deep breath can stop energy loss.
“You are responsible for your mental space. Protect it like a temple.”
Step 5: Do a Weekly Energy Check
Every Sunday, ask yourself:
- Who made me feel good this week?
- Who made me feel low?
- What thoughts repeated too much?
- Where did my time go?
- What can I do better next week?
Take small actions:
- Mute a chat
- Postpone a meeting
- Write your feelings
- Add quiet time
Step 6: A Personal Story from My Life
One time, a student kept messaging me every day but didn’t take any real action.
So I created an auto-reply:
“Please finish your Silver training. Then message me. I support those who take action.”
He didn’t reply again.
I didn’t block him. I just created a healthy boundary — with respect.
“Your time and energy are sacred. Don’t waste them proving your worth.”
Step 7: What If the Drainer is Family or Close Friends?
This is the hardest part. But boundaries are even more important here.
- Love them, but don’t lose yourself.
- Be kind, but not always available.
- Help them, but protect your peace.
“You were not born to fix everyone. You were born to live your truth.”
Final Message: Guard Your Energy Daily
In a noisy world, keeping your mind calm is a superpower. In a world full of drama, peace is the ultimate goal.
Repeat this to yourself every day:
“I protect my energy like sacred fire. I walk with peace and power. I speak with love and limits. I grow with focus and calm.”
And if you forget, just breathe, reset, and remember — you deserve peace.
Jai Sanatan 🚩 Vande Mataram 🇮🇳
~ Guruji Sunil Chaudhary
